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Remembering Kent State, Keeping a Promise

May 30, 2014 By Pam

peace-movement-momentos-1970s-300x250pxI made a promise forty-four years ago, that the spirit of Allison Beth Krause would live on in my heart.

A freshman at Kent State, Allison was a bright-eyed woman-child, eager to take in all that life had to offer. An honor student taking classes on African-American history, art, and psychology, she loved a boy named Barry, a recording artist named Melanie, and a kitten named Yossarian.

On Monday, May 4, 1970, in the wake of the U.S. invasion of Cambodia, Ohio National Guard soldiers advanced on students gathering for an antiwar rally. For a few moments, Allison stood boldly on the Commons, trying to make sense of what she was seeing. Then, she ran.

She and Barry ran toward the parking lot and hid behind a car. When the Guardsmen knelt and aimed their bayonetted rifles at the students, they reasoned that it was all show, a bluff. There had been no warning shot. And anyway, who could imagine the National Guard shooting into a rally of unarmed, white, middle-class college students?

Sixty-seven shots were fired in 13 seconds. Allison whispered to Barry, “I’m hit.” Hours later, Allison’s parents and little sister Laurel were told about her death from neighbors who’d heard the news on the radio.

sun-kent-state-killing-300x250pxI remember, as if in a dream, how word of the Kent State killings spread across the little college campus in the middle of Pennsylvania, where I, too, was a politically-involved, bright-eyed freshman. In my memory of that soft dusk, we all seemed to be running and whispering, whispering, whispering the news. I remember the shock. I remember thinking, “This is real! This is real! It could have been me. It could have been me.”

My parents got the Krause’s address and sent a sympathy card. They wrote that they had a daughter — Pamela Marie — the same age as Allison, who also participated in campus peace rallies. Allison’s parents wrote back to mine saying they hoped I would carry on the legacy of the passion for justice, enthusiasm, and love which had characterized Allison’s brief life.

I’m glad I had the opportunity to grow up. Through the years, the ones taken from Allison, I’ve been blessed with a widening circle of friends and a range of experiences I could never have dreamed of back in college.

csny-ohio-single-250x250pxI’m glad I lived to meet Barbara Deming and learn about feminism and nonviolence. I’m grateful that I had the chance to grow to adulthood and follow my passion for chronicling generations of women’s resistance and action. I like to think of myself as the witness, the one who remembers, the troubadour who tells the tale as I wander, so that our stories will live on. My journey has led me to a river of courage. It is this river that sustains me. I am in awe of it and honor it by remembering, remembering.

Sometimes, when lists of martyrs are read and each name is affirmed by the crowd with the cry “¡Presènte!,” I whisper the woman-child’s name in my heart. “Allison Krause. ¡Presènte!”

To Go Deeper
Kent State Truth Tribunal: http://truthtribunal.org

Photo caption #1: My peace movement mementos from 1970.
Caption #2: Newspapers across the country ran with the photo by John Filo. It became the iconic image of the Kent State shootings and won the Pulitzer Prize.
YouTube: “Ohio,” Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young” http://youtube.com/watch?v=MN_9VqfVQ9c

Filed Under: Featured Tagged With: Allison Krause, blog, Kent State, National Guard, Ohio

Visiting Barbara Deming, then Women with Guns

May 29, 2014 By Pam

In 1979, I boarded a Greyhound bus and toured ten southern cities, my first time south of Washington, D.C.  I traveled alone. Ah, the courage of youth!

Along the way, I stayed in women’s collectives and collected anecdotes about the range of community responses to the threat of male violence — rape, battery, abuse, harassment. Two experiences on my tour stand out as most intense, memorable, and rewarding for me.Barbara-typing-634x360One was my week visiting radical feminist pacifist Barbara Deming and her partner Jane Gapen in the Florida Keys. I’d read Barbara’s books in college (Revolution and Equilibrium and Prison Notes). Most of my understanding of nonviolence was a direct result of her writing. She eventually became my mentor. Through her, I came to understand the vital link between feminism and nonviolence.Mornings at Sugarloaf Key were spent reading, bike riding, and exploring the tropical landscape, while Jane worked in her art studio and Barbara wrote, slowly pecking out an occasional sentence on her typewriter.

In the evenings, it was another story. Their little cottage overflowed with women from around the world. We ate together around an oval table and talked, in a delicious variety of accents, of our dreams for the world, each other, and ourselves.

Later, we listened by candlelight as Barbara cast long shadows with storytelling hands. She told of her experiences during the Civil Rights, antiwar, and feminist movements and of challenging hardened hearts encountered along the way. Listening, I began to understand more about Barbara’s “two hands of nonviolence” (the one refusing to cooperate with injustice, the other extended in invitation to help build a new world). And I began to understand Gandhi’s “clinging to the truth.”

women-with-gunsTwo days after I left the Keys, I visited a women’s collective in northern Florida. These women slept with pistols beneath their pillows, prepared to use guns for self defense.

They took me to a police range and gave me a lesson in how to shoot. (That’s me in dark sunglasses, seeing a gun up close for the first — and last — time.) I remember standing beneath a blue sky with six women absolutely committed to the “I’m-not-a- victim-anymore” spirit. When they put a pistol in my hand, I wasn’t the least bit unsure. I hit the bull’s eye with all but two shots. We were all astonished. “McAllister, you’re a natural killer!” exclaimed one with her version of a compliment. “So much for aimlessness,” quipped another in a Southern drawl.

How do I explain that I was so at home with radical pacifists and only slightly less with the gun-toting women? As a pacifist, how do I reconcile these contradictory experiences?

Gandhi said, “The first principle of nonviolent action is that of non-cooperation with everything humiliating.” I believe this is the common ground I found at both communities — the total commitment to resistance. Still pondering after all these years. Stay tuned …

To Go Deeper:
I spoke about Barbara Deming at a War Resisters League panel discussion with Martin Duberman & David McReynolds on April 26, 2011 at Judson Memorial Church in NYC. I’m introduced at about the 18:30 minute mark:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9cMaMpMHlw

Read Barbara’s writing:
We Are All Part of One Another: Barbara Deming Reader, edited by Jane Meyerding (New Society Publishers, March 1984)
Prisons That Could Not Hold by Barbara Deming, Introduction by Grace Paley (Spinsters Ink, June 1985)

Filed Under: Featured Tagged With: Barbara Deming, Gainsville, South, Sugarloaf Key

Pride Poem

May 27, 2014 By Pam

I was born into a poetry-loving family. My parents took turns reading aloud every evening, poems by the Brownings, Dickinson, Emerson, Frost, Longfellow, of course, and Poe (“Quoth the raven, ‘Nevermore'”), Shakespeare and Tennyson, Whitman and Wordsworth.

My sister and I would lie tangled in blankets in our drafty house, vying to see the small oval portraits in One Hundred and One Famous Poems, a narrow book dressed in dark navy with gilt lettering. Often, when it was her turn, Mom would choke up from beauty, and we’d have to finish the poem for her. But when it was Dad’s night, he always ended by closing the book and singing “Ragtime Cowboy Joe.”

2014-05-31-pam_at_st_john_divinePerhaps this has something to do with why, sixty years later, I was invited to read my Pride poem from the pulpit at the Cathedral of St. John the Divine, one of the largest Gothic cathedrals in the world, to kick off the “Four Choirs and a Cathedral” concert. It really was a once-in-a-lifetime thrill to climb up into that awesome pulpit (about the size of a NYC apartment) and then hear the Stonewall Chorale, NYC Gay Men’s Chorus, Empire City Men’s Chorus, and Lavender Light (lesbian & gay gospel choir). What a night it was!

This poem holds hints to the history of LGBTQ liberation — from oppression to celebration. See the Key below for details of name, date, and place.

No Place Like Home
by Pam McAllister

With music in our hearts,
dancing in our hips, harmonies
rising from parched throats and lips,
we call out from the shadows
one voice at a time
singing of “somewhere”
and “rainbows” and “home.”

Don’t ask us to forget
pink triangles, that lonely fence
in Laramie, a quilt stitched in tears.
Don’t tell us to wait.
We’ve rallied an infallible army,Well-of-176x300
one lover at a time.

Once “friends of Dorothy,”
we kept our Advocates under wraps.
Called to act up, we came out,
Lambda banners unfurled, “Get used to it!”
climbed the Ladder from wells of loneliness
one rung at a time.

We’ve archived our herstory,
Sappho-225x300our Sapphic verses, each Wilde kiss.
Since Stonewall, we’ve marched
down avenue and aisle,
a lavender nation, emerging,
one rainbow flag at a time.

With music in our hearts,
dancing in our hips, harmonies
rising from parched throats and lips,
Oz-258x160we step with pride from shadows,
one singer at a time,
knowing that truly
there’s no place like home.

 

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“Somewhere over the rainbow” — described in the song as a trouble-free place

symbols of suffering and survival

Don’t Ask/ Don’t Tell — U.S. policy on gays in the military, 1994-2011
pink triangles — symbol of gay oppression under Nazi’ rule
a fence in Laramie — where Matthew Shepard died alone
NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt — conceived by Cleve Jones in 1985. Now, weighing over 54 tons, it’s the largest piece of community folk art in the world
“An army of lovers cannot fail,” slogan coined by lesbian author Rita Mae Brown, rewording Plato

journey from secrets to celebrations:

Gay-Flag-e1381165382541-266x160“friend of Dorothy” — secret code meaning gay/lesbian
The Advocate — since 1967, the oldest LGBT publication in the U.S., no longer sent in plain brown wrappers
ACT UP — AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power, founded in 1987
coming out — disclosing one’s sexual orientation
Lambda — Greek letter symbolizing LGBT rights since the ‘70s
“We’re here! We’re Queer! Get used to it!” — Chant used by Queer Nation, formed in 1990
The Ladder — founded in 1956 by Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin, first nationally distributed lesbian publication in the U.S. Well of Loneliness — 1928 lesbian novel by Radclyffe Hall

symbols of “Gay Pride”:

archive our herstory — Lesbian Herstory Archives, founded in NYC in 1974
Sappho — lyric poet from Isle of Lesbos, 7th century BCE
Oscar Wilde — 19th c. Irish wit, writer, and poet. The Oscar Wilde Bookshop (1967-2009) in Greenwich Village, was the first bookstore devoted to gay and lesbian authors.
Stonewall — Uprising sparked during a routine police raid at the Stonewall Inn on 6/28/69
marched down avenue and aisle — from Gay Pride marches down NYC’s Fifth Avenue to same sex legal marriage and weddings in churches
lavender — the color of androgyny, combining pink and blue
rainbow flags — designed by Gilbert Baker for the San Francisco Gay Freedom Day parade in 1978
Pride — catchall word for the Gay Liberation movement
“There’s no place like home” — What Dorothy Gale says at the end of The Wizard of Oz.

Filed Under: Featured Tagged With: Cathedral of St. John the Divine, Four Choirs & a Cathedral, LGBT, LGBTQ

Pam McAllister

In 1982, I edited the anthology Reweaving the Web of Life: Feminism and Nonviolence and then wrote two books about women’s use of resistance and action: You Can't Kill the Spirit and This River of Courage.

I've spent a lifetime compiling stories of courageous, creative actions, categorizing them (a la Gene Sharp), writing books and articles, speaking at university forums, church retreats, feminist conferences. I’ve also joined in the action -- antiwar protests in the '70s, Take Back the Night marches in the '80s, prison reform rallies in the '90s, and Occupy Wall Street actions in recent years.

I am currently researching more examples of nonviolent action for peace and justice around the world for two new books -- one for/about children and another about women (whose actions are still so often left out or overlooked).

Here I am with Barbara Deming, my mentor and friend, in Sugarloaf Key in the early ‘80s. The photo has faded, but the memories and love have not.

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